If you’re like me, you find yourself simultaneously amused and appalled at some of the teen fashion crazes. The way that teens dress sometimes borders on the stupid and bizarre, and I think that is not a part to be concerned with. After all, teenagers do need to find their own form of self expression, even if it is idiotic.
However, there are also those fashion trends that seem to cross over the line of good taste, to the point that is may seem detrimental to the well being of your child. You see teen girls in micro mini skirts, and showing way too much skin, and boys can be just as prone to flexing their new found sexuality. Of course, presenting yourself as a piece of meat to be devoured isn’t always a good idea.
So, how do you find the right balance between allowing your teenager to express himself or herself without being too heavy handed, and drawing the line at common decency. Well, you really need to choose your battles wisely. That is one reason I mentioned fashion trends that are simply outlandish. Go with it. If it just looks silly, thank goodness for the fact that is all it is.
In fact, you might even want to subtly encourage these forms of self expression, so that when the time comes to say, “You need to wear something less revealing,” you know that you aren’t coming off as a heavy handed tyrant that always has to have things your way. It may seem odd, because teen years can be so awkward in communications between parents and teens, but try just sitting down and discussing the matter with them. If you can present your concerns in a calm and rational manner, you might just be surprised at the results. Many teens can often feel like their parents are unwilling to treat them as blossoming adults, and will eagerly welcome the opportunity to shoulder a little responsibility of their own.
Most of all, take a deep breath. The ride is almost over. Teen years are the time to begin to let go, and trust that the work you have done up until that point has already made its impact. You’ve done a good job. Just have some faith in that.
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